Self-doubt can turn so consuming that everything looks blurry. Let’s figure out how to tackle it, use it for our benefit, and eventually let it go.
Self-doubt is not always unhealthy, and sometimes it can be a blessing in disguise.
Talk to yourself like a friend
Imagine if a friend of yours was going through what you are. All those questions and words, some quite harsh, that you know any friend doesn’t deserve. Think about the way that you would advise them.
Be compassionate towards yourself.
Remember that the only person that must always believe in you is you.
You are worthy just as you are. Affirm positive statements like:
It is beneficial only to the point where it helps us move forward or where we need to be. Once it takes the form of self-sabotage and pulls us down, lowering our self-esteem, then we must take steps to come out of it. If you are constantly comparing yourself to someone else, it’s unhealthy. If you’re measuring your worth based on someone else’s achievements, it’s unhealthy. Being inspired by someone promotes learning. Drawing comparisons to lower yourself leads to decline.
If right now you are not what or where you want to be, remember the times when you were successful in achieving your goals, the times when you were shining.
It will happen again. Life is not a downward or upward slope. It’s a mix of both. In the moments when it seems that you don’t have it in you, remind yourself of how you felt when your heart was beaming with joy.
Trust yourself. You do have what it takes. It might take a little more time, a little more effort, but you’ll get past this.
Sometimes, all we need is to have another person’s words to comfort us, for them to tell us that we’re not falling apart, that it’s going to be okay, that we have it together.
If you have at least one person in your life that you can open up about your feelings, do reach out. Tell them about your fears, your doubts.
It may turn out that it wasn’t so complicated after all, but you just needed someone else to clear it out for you. Isolating yourself is going to be of no help.
If there is someone out there who can help you, don’t hesitate to ask.
With the blessing of the internet, high-quality content is at our fingertips. Watch helpful videos to guide and motivate yourself, read articles to figure out what you can do to deal with your specific problems, invest time in resources to grow yourself.
One of the best ways to beat insecurity is to beat what you’re insecure about. Read books, see how the journeys have been for other people. There’s a lot available out there to help you.
When you have questions, go ahead and try your best to find answers to them.